The seeming soundness and self-sufficiency of business ladies’ life, which causes envy and pride for their sex from another more numerous part of representatives of the beautiful part of humanity, is actually just a ephemeral ghost.

Sometimes success in the field of business negatively affects private life, and these seemingly successful women, who own large companies and commercial enterprises, are often lacking in family happiness in reality. The reason is that personal problems of business ladies, which are also common for their female friends, are accompanied by such factors as catastrophic lack of time, emotional overflow, caused by business, readiness to rush and solve professional problems and a habit to control everything by themselves.

Strong-willed and talented women risk to become life workaholics, who are constantly thinking about their business; on the one hand, this business allows women to be completely independent from any circumstances and gives them psychic income, but on the other hand, it absorbs all their vital resources. And if it has already happened, all their desires are focused on achievement of goals in spite of sacrifices, which they have to put at the altar of success. The dark side of the picture is renunciation of natural desires to be a wife and a mother, to be loved and to love, to be vulnerable and to care for relatives.

Business implies hard and fast rules, and a soul of an experienced businessman coarsens in time; he starts considering things in terms of profit, always behaves as a cock of the walk, so it will be hard to distinguish a businessman from a business lady in terms of emotions and behavior in a few years. They both have the same habits, the same metallic notes in their voice and the same condescending attitude to less successful representatives of the opposite sex.

At the same time, there are a few women, who don’t want to have a full-fledged family, a real family, but not a simulation of family, a mask of prosperity, which you wear for your friends. And everyone knows what standard family happiness is: a man should be at least a protector (and a breadwinner, if it is possible), who will lend a woman his strong shoulder; beautiful and clever children, who give you joy and hope for calm old age. The problem is that business women don’t get used to give in and trust anyone completely, because their line of business, to which they got used, requires being first all the time; their word always must be the final and decisive one. Such women can hardly find a permanent partner, who can balance on the sharpest edge between a subordinate, who is ready for anything, and a strong and caring man, who can always support his wife. Children also need real mother love, and no presents and well-paid nanny, no matter how well she treats them, can take the place of a mother.

Any problem can be solved if desired, and even such complicated problem as creation of a full-fledged family can be solved artificially. There are always several variants for doing it, but no one can guarantee that the result will coincide with your desires. And no one knows for how long such illusion of happiness will last.

Long-term contract marriage between two financially independent partners, who are equal in rights at solution of family problems, is quite a rare phenomenon. As a rule, such marriages are held up by a set of restrictions and rules, which can’t be ignored in order not to upset the fragile balance of power.

Not every woman would like to be next to a weak-willed henpecked husband, who has no right to speak and do something independently. Any normal woman will feel disgust sooner or later. The existing tradition to raise children without a father and a full-fledged family, periodically changing sexual partners like stud horses, seems a way out of a situation only at first sight. It exhausts women morally, and some invisible core disappears; spiritual emptiness and feeling of dissatisfaction and disorderliness come instead.

What advices can we give to the strongest link of the weaker part of humanity? Basically, these advices are the same as for ordinary women:

- Your life should be full-fledged and you shouldn’t draw your attention only to one of its constituent parts. There are a lot of beautiful things in life, which you can get to know only when you give yourself up to them completely.
- Reconsider your attitude to life. Don’t be afraid of changing something in your character. Visit a psychologist.
- Don’t be afraid of trusting your feeling, because sometimes your heart is wiser than your mind. Don’t invent silly complexes concerning your appearance, because there are no ugly women, but there are women, who don’t know how to sell themselves.
- Don’t wait for a miracle and don’t hide from life at work. Achieve your happiness independently, but remember that you can’t buy love – you must find it.
- Take care of what you already have, because sometimes we understand that we were happy only after losing something.
- Try to separate everyday problems and business problems; pay attention to both of them. Don’t save on love for your relatives and friends. Remind them that you need them as often as possible.
- Don’t depress your husband and don’t make him feel his defectiveness. Remember that there are no ideal people in the world.

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